Ever since we found out I was pregnant with twins I have heard it all. "Better you than me" or "Good luck" or "You poor thing" and blah blah blah.
I have always shrugged off people's ignorant comments because their thoughts are not my thoughts, so I will continue about my happy way and let them continue about theirs.
BUT not anymore. After a comment that was made to me the other day while sitting in the doctors office, I have decided that while they feel they can voice their opinions so freely, well so can I. :)
Im sitting there, in the waiting room minding my own business with my two beautiful peaceful babies and this lady walks by and with the sassiest tone in her voice she says to me " humph, you sure have my sympathy" and she kept walking!!!
I wanted to chase her out the door, and tell her that I did not NEED her sympathy because I happen to be enjoying myself!! Good grief, if anything she should be offering me her congratulations, not her sympathy. Its a blessing that I am able to have even one of my girls, but a pure miracle that I am able to have two. And I believe, if its okay with that lady, and the rest of the world, I would like to keep it this way.
That day, leaving the doctors office, I glanced in the backseat and saw two carseats and tears just streamed down my face for 30 minutes and I thanked God over and over for giving me Molly and Emma.
I am more grateful then any one will ever know, that I have TWO little girls to call my own.
Here is a picture of my sweet babies all dressed up today and ready to meet their Aunt Marsha for the first time. She drove 9 hours just to spend the week with us.
I continue to be amazed by how many people have shown us how special they think our girls are.
We have recieved visits, gifts, letters, cards, emails, so many things from so many of you and we continue to be so thankful!
My Beautiful Baby Emma
My pretty baby Molly
The girls are a double blessing! Twice the smiles, twice the hugs, twice the kisses, twice the cuddles,twice the .......twice the gifts from God! God is good!!!
ReplyDeleteHey Erika! My name is brittany. I am one of Meghan Cresawn's bffs in spruce pine. I have been following your story through her and through your blog, although i didn't start reading until your beautiful girls were born.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand peoples RUDE comments like that! I have one little baby girl (10 months old) and I am hoping and praying for twins next time! I can't imagine the blessing (double blessing) it would be!
Congratulations on their health! I'm so glad they are growing and healthy! I'd love to get to meet them some day. They are absolutely gorgeous!
You and your girls are in my prayers and I hope everything continues to go well. From reading your blog, I've gathered that you are SUCH a good mommy :) It's so much fun isn't it???
:)
Brittany
http://thejoviallife.blogspot.com/ (my blog)
I've been lurking on this blog for a while and thought I'd finally leave a comment. :)
ReplyDeleteI can just feel the love you have for these two little girls just oozing out of every blog post you write and you are COMPLETELY, COMPLETELY right that having twins is a blessing. How some people can give you such rude comments just astounds me. Yes, twins are more work than just one baby but that doesn't mean you need other people's sympathy! You were given a gift. :)
I feel so blessed by your blog!
Erika People are just plain IGNORAT AND STUPID! How dare that lady!!! That was such a major sign of insecurity for her to say that, "who does she think she is"??? Maybe she can't have kids, or maybe she doesne't know how to handle twins. Thank the Lord on her behalf. God never gives you any more than you can handle. Those two babies are a true blessing from God, just like my sweet Joshua Alexander is a blessing from God. May the lord be with the ignorant as we continue to pray upon them. Good Grief! Christine!
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean Erika.....I've gone through the same thing.....You know about my story and I have had people stare at me when I go out with all the kids....I've seen people gawk and whisper (especially when I was pregnant) and I've heard way too many comments about "poor thing, how do you do it?, glad it's not me...) and I wish I would have told people exactly how I felt. Don't keep your mouth closed, let them know that it's a blessing and if they don't see it that way then maybe they need to do a little soul searching....or get to know GOD a little better :-) Of course their a times when things get a little difficult, but that happens with 1, 2, 3, or 6 kids.....and what do you do???? One day at a time.....it is not that big of a deal.....Kudos to you for your first day out with the girls all by yourself!!!!! I was afraid the first time I went out with Kosta and Jovi.....it really wasn't a big deal......Let me know when you feel up to seeing the kids ok....Just call me!
ReplyDeleteI don't comment on your blog very often Erika because the truth is I am one of those 'worst nightmare' kinda stories where TTTS shattered my dreams of matching outfits, twin language and my boys growing up best friends forever. I wanted nothing more than to have my boys with me but instead my son Cameron will always be one half of a whole apple, growing up with a part of himself missing.
ReplyDeleteAnd maybe if more people knew how hard it is to get multiples into this world alive they'd learn to shut their mouths.
Twice I've had moms tell me to be glad my boys weren't twins when I asked if their's were. The first time I quickly told her I'd never say that and why but the second with the second mom I started to turn away and then boldly said, "no I wish both my twins were here together so I could experience the busy times that so obviously you don't get enough joy from" and then I walked away.
Together, may all of us affected by TTTS, educate the world to just how lucky we are to have the babies we have and that never, ever, should sympathy be extended when life is about living and JOY!
I have other way to connect with you...though we must find a way to connect I think...but wanted to thank you for your comments and also tell you to read further on my blog...you'll see that most days are so filled with Joy and Hope...that I do not feel horribly sad or filled with negativity over what I feel is the most amazing,heartwrenching, awe inspiring, miracle believing and most importantly faith building journey of my entire life. I wish it could be different but know it is what is supposed to be and I am happy (most of the time) for that.
ReplyDeleteSo thanks for your comments and your support...know that I am supporting and praying for you as I am certain you are for me too!