I feel like I am always just sharing with you guys, the Best Moments of being a mom. :-)
So in this blog, I am just going to be REAL! This stuff is HARD work!! ;)
And trust me, I have never done anything in my life that I am more proud of....then the pride I feel every time I look at my baby girls. BUT..with that pride comes hard, exhausting, and sometimes even dirty, work too!
Molly & Emma are in a VERY busy stage right now. Constantly into SOMEthing. If it's not emptying out their diaper bag, then they are into my cabinets, and if they aren't in my cabinets, then they looking for mischief down the hall, and if they aren't down the hall then they hiding behind the blinds, while banging on the windows. And if they aren't doing that, then they are messing with the DVR, playstation, wii, remote controls, and if they aren't doing that then they are in their bedroom pulling out all the clothes from their drawers, or tossing diapers all over the place, and if they aren't doing that then they are in the kitchen playing in the trash, and if they aren't in the trash then they are in the refridgerator sitting in the floor playing with the butter, and if they aren't doing that they are throwing toys in a toilet that someone forgot to flush...i mean GEE_WIZ I am out of breath just typing all of this! :) Anything and everything they can possibly think of...they are doing it!
I feel like I am constantly running around in circles all day trying to distract them from what they REALLY want to be doing. If there is a moment of silence in my house, then I get really worried, wondering what I am going to find them doing next.
I have to keep my eyes on them at ALL times! And that isn't usually hard to do, considering if I leave the room for a solid second they are normally right behind me. Tugging on my pant leg, whining for me to pick them up. They are ridiculously spoiled. And yes, it's all my fault, blame me.
They whine so much for me to hold them, and my word, the tantrums they throw when something is NOT going their way. They kick their arms and feet and scream as loud as they can, and the second things are back to the way they want it....all smiles and giggles again.
I don't intentionally let them get away with murder, I just find a hard time balancing what is and isnt the correct way to discipline them. I mean if I told them NO every single time they were doing something they shouldnt...then that is all they would ever hear! And I am just trying to put myself in their shoes...if I was a baby and every move i made someone was fussing at me with no no no No NO NO! I would think that I would eventually feel very insecure and unhappy, and I don't want that for them. But I also don't want them thinking that they don't have to listen to me either.
Emma is too smart for her own good sometimes. As proud as I am that she has learned to stand on her own, it sometimes comes to my disadvantage. When she is in her highchair, she is always standing up in it while I am trying to feed her. I can tell her no and to sit 100 times and she just looks at me with the biggest smile and stands anyways.
I have popped them on occasion, but it is
not the method of discipline I prefer to use. And it makes me feel so rotten when I do have to do it. But really, she isn't old enough to grasp the time out concept, because lets be honest, if I put her in a corner she would crawl right out of it. So what am I SUPPOSE to do at this stage to teach them right from wrong?
I mean SOMEONE could have warned me, that being a mom was a lot harder than just a few sleepless nights. :-)
I want so badly to be the best mom I can be, and I want so badly for them to adore the mommy that they have, but I don't want to raise brats either!
I need someone to recommend a very GOOD parenting book to me. I don't want a parenting book that teaches harsh discipline, because spanking is not a method I want to use. Especially not at this stage of them still being babies. I am not saying I won't ever spank my kids, but I am saying if I can find another alternative to teaching them right from wrong, I prefer to go that route instead.
Life isn't a fairy tale but it certainly isnt "miserable" either.
In just 13 months, I have shared countless precious moments with my little girls. Being their mommy, is an absolute priceless gift to me. They are Fun, Happy, Silly, Girls with Amazing personalities.
But as with every child, they have their moments and I want them to learn early the importance of obedience. But I want to do it the right way. I just need to find a solution on what that way actually is!
I want to leave you with this funny story...just another example of how busy and chaotic my life seems to be right now!
Tonight I was at the store getting some pictures printed, and while I was standing at the machine selecting the pics from my SIM card that I wanted printed ,I have 2 fussy girls with me. Molly tends to be far more dramatic than Emma when she isnt happy. So while I have a somewhat fussy Emma ,I have a very LOUD unhhappy Molly. The last thing she wanted to be doing was sitting bored in a shopping cart waiting on me to go through pictures I was wanting printed. So....I try everything to keep them happy so that I can get out of the store without disturbing the peace and sanity of everyone else that was in there to shop.
I was handing them snacks left and right, I was giving them my keys, my debit card, my phone...yes I know all those germ infested items that should not be going in their mouth. But the reality for me is, it won't kill 'em! And it keeps them quiet! Except, nothing is keeping Molly quiet. She just wanted out of the shopping cart. SO, I take my purse, that is in the back of the shopping cart, and I zip it up, and I sit it in the front next to Emma ( b/c she is REALLY into my keys, so figured it would be ok) and I put Molly in the back of the cart. I was hoping if she had more room to move around it would keep her satisfied just a little while longer. But she still wasnt having it. I keep my hand on the buggy but turn my back because I am really trying hard to go through these pictures so I can get out of there, because at this point, forget the rest of the store...Molly's screaming is making me lose
my sanity!
Okay...FINALLY almost done...and I quickly turn my head to glance at Emma to see what she is doing and there it is people....the 1st but probably not the last Moment I can honestly say..for 0.5 seconds I was wishing she was someone ELSE's kid!!
She had unzipped my purse and was chewing on a tampon!!!! Oh my GOSH! And not just ONE but had another one in her hand!! I wanted to crawl in a hole and die!! I was so humilated! I quickly take them from her, and look around PRAYING to God I was the ONLY one who saw this, and of COURSE I was NOT! There was a lady just a cacklin' away! And she says to me " they ARE your only two, RIGHT?" I mean the reality is, I can SEE why she would feel compelled to ask that. For the past 15 solid minutes I have had a very dramatic toddler screaming her head off, and all that screaming draws all kinds of attention to the fact that I have another toddler chewing on tampons!
"Yes Lady, these ARE my only 2" ...I mean for real, I would HATE to see what my 3rd one would have been doing!!
